It's Saturday and I was on my way home after a hard mid-day work. Every weekend I always try to get home soon after working. It's a quite hot day. I was thinking on how I can get to the bus halt without making sweat. So I hailed a pedicab and told the driver to go to the bus halt for about 500 meters from the place I hailed the pedicab. On the halfway, the driver made a little chat with me. Actually I know the driver well because everytime I wanna get home and hail a pedicab, he's always there for unknown reason. Well maybe it's just his luck.
Back to the conversation with the driver, I didn't know who made the chat first. I remembered that I was daydreaming at that time. I didn't pay attention on his talk until he began to ask me a question. He asked me when I get married. A classic question and also the most frequently asked question by most people to me. Okay, maybe they think that I'm the man who is ready to get married and raise a family. They just look from my financial condition. I have a good job with good paycheck, so they can analize that and make a judgment. But have they realized that a marriage is more than the thought of how much buck does a person have?
When the driver asked the question, I just laughed. I answered his question just to let him know I still listened to him. I said I haven't found a woman to become my wife and I was looking for a good one. And the conversation continued with his experience in raising a family. For the next minutes he gave me some insights on how a man should do in his marriage to prevent it from divorce. I stopped daydreaming and continuously pay attention to his talk. I thought this driver had plenty of experience regarding his life.
He told me that a husband and a wife have to reach the same perception and understanding about their couple. If the husband is the only fund raiser in the family, the wife should not give him more problem when he get home. Can you imagine in that sort of circumstance? You as a husband have to work hard in the office with the pressure from your boss and when you get home your wife welcomes you with grumble because you don't fix the roof or you don't give her enough money to buy things. In the end it turns into big fuss.
Huge understanding should be reached if the husband and the wife earn their own money as the conversation between them becomes lack. In the household, he continued, fuss by fuss always happen. It's normal. When someone starts to argue and it's predicted to become a fuss, one of them whether the husband or the wife should control the situation by staying calm and be cold headed. Just the same way with water and fire. Fire can only be put out by water not gasoline. When the fuss happen triggered by the anger of the husband, the wife should react as water and so the opposite way.
After listening to the driver, I truly believed that marriage is not only the matter of having lot of buck or not but it needs strong psychological condition and stable emotion as well. For everyone out there who wants to get married, are you ready to face fuss by fuss happened in your marriage? Are you ready to get married now?
